strong>Q: Great idea, blogging the questions/answers into an archive. I've spent hours on here reading. Thank you.
My question: How do you negotiate between two interested parties without losing out?
My situation: I think there's an old Chinese proverb that says, "A man who chases two snakes, catches neither."
I have "Job A" almost locked up. We've been talking, I've done several phone interviews and tests and they want to conduct a final in-person interview/orientation next week.
"Job B" has recently contacted me and wants to start the interview process with them.
And I just saw some postings, we'll call them "Job C" and "Job D," that I'm also very interested in (but haven't applied.)
I've recently finished my graduate degree with a year of real job experience under my belt. (Hence, I'm below the tranditional "MUST HAVE AT LEAST TWO YEARS EXPERIENCE" that just about every job description requires.) So gambling on negotiating offers, higher wages, perks, etc. makes me anxious since I have limited real-time experience.
As anyone would, I'd like get paid more than they're willing to pay. But getting these companies into a bidding war or burning a potential future employer could be dangerous. I'm not sure when to say, "I do have other parties interested" and not make it sound like a threat. And I'm not sure if I should or how to use multiple offers to my benefit.
Potential Employee A
A: I've been played, and I don't like it.
I also know of a few people who have played one company against another and met with disaster. One was fired for lying about a mythical competing offer. Another was suspended for the same thing. Someone else was advised to take the other offer -- which he really didn't want -- and another played two companies against each other and last two offers and one job in the same day.
You're playing with fire.
The main prize here is the job, not the marginal difference between one offer and another. Why risk getting the reputation as a player and showing your eventual employer that you're not quite as interested in the job as they had thought? The truly successful people I know don't do this.
As for your situation, Jobs C and D don't exist. They're ads. Apply for them as insurance while you're waiting to hear from A and B, but don't use them as leverage, unless you'd rather go there. If you'd rather have Job A than Job B, I hope you get it, accept it and are happy. If you'd prefer Job B, try to get Employer A to give you time to see if you can get Job B.
For almost every job that gets filled, more than one candidate is considered. How would you feel if the employer said, "Well, we like you, but Candidate B is also good but willing to work for less."
None of us wants to get screwed, but keep your eye on the prize
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